Nice guys finish first dating
Little did I know, you felt the exact same, we never took the risk, so in the end I put myself in the friend zone.Recently, Clarisse Thorn admirably tried to pick through the sewage strewn all over “pickup artist” (PUA) communities and find a handful of gems that could be plucked out and proffered to the socially awkward man who finds that he’s not getting laid as often as he’d like.The only reason that I said "no" to going on a date with him was because he was "nice." Upon review of my lengthy dating history that spans all different kinds of guys, I'm disappointed to admit that I've dated two nice guys in my life. I then dated an assh*le immediately after each of them and regretted my choice in letting the good guy go. It's a whole lot harder to move on from hurting a good guy than hurting an assh*le.This cycle of dating is completely backwards and makes no sense. I am afraid I'm going to do something to him to ruin him. I know this is totally unfair, and hell, I've even had guys experience this same fear with me. If I go on ONE date with a nice guy, I feel as though our future may as well already be set in stone.Still, Clarisse is right to say feminists haven’t really responded to the plaintive cries of self-described “nice guys” who claim they want non-sexist dating advice that works, but are forced to look to PUAs because there is no one else speaking to them.So, in the interest of good faith, I have concocted dating advice for men who swear up and down they are only drawn to misogynist PUA forums and seminars out of desperation and not sexism.It's the hardest thing when you can't put your finger on it yet you have no choice but to let a good guy go.This is made even harder knowing you face a brutal dating world where you will likely get hurt again. I'm not looking for an assh*le by any means, but I want someone less predictable.
Therefore, dating a good guy could lead me down a path I'm not sure that I want to go on.
However, it wasn't until a month or so ago, when my dear friend tried to set me up with a classic "nice guy," that I started to see the truth in this statement.
My immediate reaction on hearing the background info on this guy was, "Ohhh, he seems too nice for me." I told my friend I'd have to pass for now, and I never really thought of why I was so quick to pass on this guy. Of ALL the men I've let into my life, only two of them were actually nice guys. I enjoyed my time with them for a little bit, and then dumped them out of the blue.
Your smile could light up the whole city, and your kindness could prove that nice guys can finish first.
For the longest time I’ve tried convincing myself that you’re only just a friend because thats all you have view me as.